When you think about BDSM, uneasy thoughts of whips, ball gags and collars spring to mind, but while BDSM can include all of those things and more, it doesn’t have to be scary. The beauty of BDSM is that you can take it as far as you are comfortable with going, whether that’s a little bit of spanking or some light bondage. And, hey, if your idea of kink is just wearing an easy-to-remove blindfold, that’s fine too.
BDSM is coming out of the shadows. According to Saskia Michel, commanding officer at Matildas. “Since 50 Shades of Grey hit the market, people have been way more interested in exploring bondage and kink. We’re seeing people becoming more and more adventurous with this: simple whips and handcuffs are no longer cutting the mustard. People now want full latex clothing, masks and leather body harnesses (which we are also seeing in high fashion overseas). People are definitely becoming more open-minded, curious and kinky.” Time to explore your limits and have some fun.
To help you on your journey (and if masks and latex clothing are a bit too much too soon), we’ve selected the best BDSM toys to gently introduce you to the world of BDSM. Go forth and get your Fifty Shades of Grey on.
1/ Bijoux Indiscrets ZaZaZa Feather Handcuffs, R414, Matildas.co.za
These handcuffs let you start your exploration into BDSM slowly. The cuffs are super soft and comfortable and will add an exotic twist to your play. Cuff your partner or let them cuff you, it’s your call.
2/ Fifty Shades of Grey Cherished Collection Leather and Suede Paddle, R1 499, Desir.co.za
This dual-sided paddle lets you choose your punishment: either stinging leather or soft suede. Fitted with a rose-gold handle with a filigree end, this paddle is elegant and luxurious. Time to give your partner a little love tap.
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3/ Lelo Luxe Intima Silk Blindfold, R912, PassionFruit.co.za
Probably one of the easiest ways to explore BDSM is with a blindfold. If you have a scarf or T-shirt (à la Gift Shades of Grey) you can blindfold yourself or your partner and heighten all of your sensations during sex. Why use a scarf though, when you can use this beautiful, adjustable blindfold that will definitely add a touch of elegance.
4/ Bijoux Indiscrets Black Maze Body Harness, R1 230, Matildas.co.za
Stylish and subtle in its own way, this body harness can be worn over lacey lingerie or… If you dare… With nothing at all. It’s completely adjustable around the neck and waist, ensuring that you can tailor it to your specific measurements. Want to add even more spice? Wear it with these nipple pasties.
5/ Steamy Shades Over The Door Sex Swing For Couples, R799, Desir.co.za
Add a myriad more positions to your sex repertoire with this over-the-door sex swing. Padded, adjustable straps ensure that your play is comfortable and lace and satin details add a tasteful touch. The swing is easy to use and is kept secure by the closed door. Time to start swinging!
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