Long before I had sex, I was very aware of my drive.
In my teens, I found some sex-toy blogs, bought my first vibrator, and got into the idea that anything that feels good to you and doesn’t harm anyone else is fine.
When I did have sex with a partner, I knew so much about what felt right to me that it was seamless. I knew to say, “Touch me here,” or simply, “This isn’t working, I’m going to finish myself off.”
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For me, a ‘high sex drive’ is not about how often I have sex—it’s partly about being open to different things. It can depend on my partner and the relationship, or on whether I’m craving something vanilla or more BDSM.
Ultimately, I feel it’s my responsibility to get myself off, with a partner or by myself, watching porn or using a toy. It’s liberating, fun, and a part of myself I love.
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This article was originally published on www.womenshealthmag.com